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Oct 28, 2016

Why should we integrate both masculine and feminine energy?

Both men and women have access to masculine and feminine energy.   However we don’t always use both energies.  Some of us get stuck in one energy.
 
When we are stuck in one, we eventually become upset and unfulfilled.  
 
For a full understanding of masculine and feminine energy please go to my podcast

#1 101 of masculine and feminine energy.

The meditation I have prepared for you in this podcast, will solidify and integrate in your subconscious mind that you have access to both energies.  It will reinforce that you always will have access to those 2 energies.

If you haven’t watched the tv show called  ‘Man Up’ on the ABC   I highly recommend to watch it at some stage. The show highlights the direct effect of how society has urged men to be strong.  Boys are told to ‘man up’.  They're not allowed to be seen as vulnerable.
 
This is exactly what’s now happening with women.  We are told not to be vulnerable with our partners even.  We have to be strong.  We have to be equal.  
 
At the end of the day we are all human.  Every one of us needs to be able to flick the switch to masculine and feminine energy.
 
Oh and I should say….. for ease of explaining I refer to our energy as masculine and feminine energy.  Of course some women don’t like being referred to masculine and some men don’t like being referred to as feminine.
 
If you don’t like the terminology, you can replace the words masculine energy with the words power and strength and you can replace the words feminine energy with the words love, vulnerability and peace.  
 
The bottom line   
 
Everyone needs strength and everyone needs softness. Everyone needs balance.  
 
Stop telling people to toughen up when they try to express how they feel. Stop telling boys and girls to ‘not cry like a girl.’  Encourage our children to be strong and brave and encourage our children to be vulnerable and to talk.
 
We all need access to both energies.  Regardless of our gender. Regardless of our age.
 

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Oct 19, 2016

Being feminine doesn’t mean you are anti-feminist

and

Being a feminist doesn’t mean you can’t be feminine 

I sometimes get emails from women who get a little agitated thinking that my book is trying to disempower women from a feminist perspective,  when I am actually doing the opposite.

I'm empowering women with a feminine perspective.  

But….

I also don’t

 think that these women have actually read my book.. 

 But… 

 I wanted to take the time and address this anyway as it’s surfaced a bit...

I understand that some feminists will NOT LIKE some of the messages in my book AND some will TOTALLY RELATE.

For the women out there that are single and would like to be in a relationship,  then please….. Just explore the topic of masculine and feminine energy.

So to cut to the chase, I think that some feminists have it all wrong.   

I believe that some have their balance wrong.

I will explain why in a moment…….. 

Firstly I want to say that I agree 100% with equality. 

We should have equal pay, we should have the right to vote, have equal social rights and we should have freedom of choice. 

I believe that we need to fight against domestic violence, and protect women and girls against sexual harassment and rape. 

I believe we should fight for everything that goes with gender equality. 

We SHOULD be treated as equals.

But here’s the thing… Just because I believe in feminism, it doesn’t mean I also believe I have to be masculine in my energy. 

I don’t believe women have to be strong ALL THE TIME. 

It’s soooo sad.. 

Men are encouraged to hide their feelings and be strong.. 

Are we trying to encourage women to do the same?

No one should hide their feelings, shut up and be strong ALL the time. 

Especially if it’s not our ‘natural’ state.

Sooo….  

What’s changed? 

And….

Why is the information in my book relevant?

Over the last few decades, things have changed dramatically for women.

Women’s roles in society have changed for two very obvious reasons - 

  • Single Mothers - With divorce rates increasing, it’s has left a trail of many more single mothers.   There are a lot more women that have taken on both roles in the family unit. They have to be strong, they have to protect, they have to nurture, many have to work, they have sole financial responsibility and in a lot of cases they have to do it all alone. 
  • Career women - There are many more women in solid ‘kick butt’ careers. Women have had to become strong to compete to be equals or above with the men in the workplace. They may also have the financial pressures that go with our increased quality of living - they may also have to juggle children and partners and everything that goes along with it.  

We have worked hard to give women the right to do just about every single job that a man can do.   But…. compared to our mothers and grandmothers many more women have the opportunity to obtain much higher roles in the community. Virtually any role they want.

This means generally speaking we have to be well educated, hold a lot more responsibility, work longer hours, have more pressure and handle a lot more stress.

And when we are juggling children, there’s also many other issues that can come up - one of these is the stereotypical idea that women raise the children.

Many women have an enormous sense of guilt in having a career and they battle with this guilt - some women are still torn as to whether it should be their job to raise the children. 

Masculine and feminine energy IS very different.

In all the pressure with fighting to achieve, many women have had to become masculine in their energy. 

Firstly, what does each energy mean? 

Masculine energy is very focused and driven on their goals and outcomes.  It’s maximum power and strength.  It’s the challenge and it’s the fight!

Feminine energy is love.   Feminine energy is feeling.   Feminine is a soft energy.  Feminine is being in the moment.  Feminine energy is a love outside ourselves. Feminine energy is also extremely powerful with who you can influence and help.

Each energy is different in the way they think, how they act and how they process things. 

And….  I’m not just talking about women. 

Masculine and feminine energy is not gender based.    A man can be feminine and a woman can be masculine and vice versa.

If you prefer not to use the terminology masculine and feminine, I’m quite happy for you to use the words strength and power  OR  soft energy and love. 

We can all have the extremes of both. We can be a man and be feminine and we can be a man and be masculine.  We can be a woman and be masculine, we can be a woman and be feminine.

We all have access to BOTH energies. 

But some of us live in the extremes of either one of those two energies.

Polarity

In relationships, when there are opposite energies in a relationship we come together with a spark and chemistry. 

When you have opposite energies in relationships, that’s where attraction and polarity begins. 

Relationships

The energy we use at work and in business to get things done, won’t necessarily work in our relationships. 

If you are in a relationship where something is missing..  If you don’t have the spark anymore, then learn about masculine and feminine energy.  

If you are masculine in your energy, you will have either attracted a feminine man, or you will have a masculine man who is very confused about how to handle you. 

If you want to be the masculine energy and maintain full control in your relationship then that’s ok. If you are happy then keep doing what you are doing..

If not.. Then I suggest that you learn about masculine and feminine energy. 

Masculine energy is awesome

There is nothing wrong with masculine energy.  If you can access your masculine energy - embrace it!  You are strong and you can make things happen. 

It’s when we get stuck in the extreme of one energy that we have problems..

For example when we get home from work and we are stuck in our masculine energy - we are stuck in our heads..

When we can’t switch off.

And….

Be careful - Masculine energy can also be very seductive. 

The power.

The significance.

The rewards. 

But also recognise that there are trade offs..

We can lose our own core energy - I know this because I did!

When I was running my businesses, I was competing with men the majority of the time during work hours - and because I was so used to being in fight or flight mode, I brought that energy home with me. 

Now…

Present day….

Quite simply, I realise that I don’t want or need to compete with men ALL of the time to show that I’m an equal. 

So my point is that masculine energy has it’s place in our lives

and so does feminine energy.  

Opposite energy

I truly believe that we need to have opposite energies to experience fulfilment in our lives. 

So why would feminists have a problem with someone being feminine?

I guess it’s their interpretation as to what being feminine means.  

Femininity doesn't make you weak, it doesn’t make you ditzy. It makes you a woman and it makes you bloody powerful!  

It makes you more powerful at times than you will ever be in your masculine.  

Bottom line

Being equal does not mean we have to be the same. 

Because….. I don’t want to be the same as a man.  

I want the choice to live either in my feminine energy or in my masculine.

Is that such a bad thing?

I want the right to switch to my masculine energy when I NEED to and switch to my feminine energy when I WANT to.  I certainly don't always want to be in my masculine energy in ALL aspects of my life.

Why?  Because I have BEEN THERE and DONE THAT. 

And I was tired!  I was drained! 

I felt like I was a man!

I needed to learn how to switch off.  

Because…. Don’t I have the right to be in my core energy if I want and choose to?  

Regain your femininity.  

I want you to remember what it’s like to be in your feminine if you have lost that feeling..

or

I want you to experience what it feels like to be feminine.  Some of us have never known what it feels like.

Here is something to think about…

Polarity

In life there is an opposite to everything.  Good and bad, night and day and also the opposite of masculine energy which is feminine energy. 

We’ve all also heard the saying that opposites attract. We know this

is true – take a magnet, for example. If we were to get two magnets

and we put the north and south poles together, they will attract each

other. Yet if you put two north poles or two south poles together,

they will repel. It’s the same principle when it comes to masculine

and feminine energy in relationships

In the bedroom

If you are feminine in your core then your natural opposite energy will be masculine energy.

If you are equally sharing the responsibilities in life, then consider who is the masculine and who is the feminine energy in the bedroom?   In order to have polarity and chemistry, someone in the relationship needs to be masculine and someone needs to be feminine. 

So.. yes I agree that we need to be equal to our partners, but there are times when we also need to be opposite to our partners.  

That’s how polarity happens in relationships.

I had real estate offices in my early 20’s (at a time when real estate was a very male dominated industry), all my role models in sales and business were males.  Because I wanted to be successful, I modelled them. 

The result was that I became very masculine in my energy. I can now see that I was pretty much in my masculine energy MOST of the time.

If only I knew that I could switch between the two energies instead of living my life in masculine energy.

I now have the flexibility that when I am at work, I can make things happen, I can conquer, I can have an amazing career

AND THEN… 

When I get home, or go out..  I can switch off and be in my feminine energy with my son, my friends and my partner.

Just because we have a career, just because we are 'equals' it doesn’t mean we also have to lose our femininity. Femininity still has a role to play. Being a woman, being soft and being nurturing is still a necessary part of fulfilment in life.

To me life is about doing, being and having everything that your heart desires.

It's about being who you really are.  It’s about being fulfilled in your life, career and love. 

So yes…. I am 100% all for gender equality and everything that stands for.  

And no matter what the feminists say, in a normal hetrosexual relationship we need a man not only to procreate, we also need a man to feel love at the deepest level in intimacy.  No man made appliance will do that for you, no matter how much you may think you love it. 

My challenge

My book challenges single people who have not been able to find their soul mate to look at their energy.  My book also challenges established relationships that have lost the spark, to check in on their energy. 

My belief is that you should be able to have a career, as well as love a man with all your heart and soul. 

So maybe some feminists might just identify with this book after all? 

Book review -

This review sums it up my book quite nicely though..

 'While her perspective may seem anti feminist at times, she makes a convincing argument for “polarity” in relationships and offers many helpful cognitive exercises, including to leverage NLP-type “anchors” of clenching one’s left or right fist to consciously tap into and assert female or male energy as the situation warrants.' Kirkus review

To have passion in a relationship, polarity is everything. 

Lisa B is the author of Banish The Bitch And Bring Out The Babe and host of The Lisa B Show.

If you would like to purchase Banish The Bitch – Click Here

Please visit The Lisa B Show  podcast –

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Feminists - Resource

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Sep 27, 2016

The Four Love buckets -

What is love?  

And how do we even feel loved?  

Let me explain…  There are 4 ways that we can feel loved.

 

The first one is self love

Self love is the ONLY love that we can control

It's the only love that we can fully 100% rely on.

And it's ok to love yourself.

It really is.

Self love is the feeling of knowing who you are at your core.  

Self love is not external.  

It's not EGO.

It's about recognising that you’ve been through good times and bad.  

It's accepting you for who you are.

Self love is very much an internal love

Now…..

The other ways we feel loved is from EXTERNAL SOURCES

Which brings me to  

The second type of love  

The Love from others  -  this could be friends, family or work colleagues  

 

The third type of love is

The love from an intimate partner

 

The Fourth type of love is

The love from children or pets.

 

And….  Sometimes we DO look for love in all the wrong places.

 

Here’s the important part..

The last 3 ways to feel loved are from external sources

Meaning you CAN NOT control these!!

No matter how hard you try….

Because at different times in your life, people will take their love away from you

through no fault of your own!

And… at different points in time, these external sources may have felt full of love..

some were overflowing

Then one day it may have stopped abruptly…..

If all of your external sources get taken away at once, it can feel dreadful. It can make you feel sad.

Empty.

If we only focus on external love.  That’s the risk we take.

This love is outside of our control  

It is love outside of us.

Because remember.. You can’t control other people and how they feel.  

You can only control how you feel about the situation.

This is why it's very important for you  to focus on your own love wholeheartedly first.  

Your love is the only love that you CAN control..

Guard it with your life!

And remember You still have plenty of love to go around….

But

Your default position needs to be

that you focus on self love first.  

Because watch what happens….

If a break up occurs with an intimate partner

and if we have focused on them loving us in order for us to feel happy…..

If they take their love away.  

We've left ourselves with nothing.

Their love could have made us feel happy.  

even though it’s wonderful to have, we can't rely on external love to make us happy.  

And know that..  

It's no one else's responsibility to make you happy but yourself.    

It's up to you.  

 Soooo.. It’s time to love you first.  

Focus on Self love first and guard it with your life.  

Say nice things to yourself.   

Be kind to yourself.

Take care of yourself

Know that you are doing the best with what you have.

And most importantly

 

Love yourself first.



Lisa B is the author of Banish The Bitch And Bring Out The Babe and host of The Lisa B Show.

If you would like to purchase Banish The Bitch – Click Here

Please visit The Lisa B Show  podcast –

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If you like the podcast, please write a 5 star review –

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Question : What did you learn or what was something that resonated with you about this episode?

Please let me know in the comments below.

Aug 16, 2016

This week’s episode I talk about feminine energy in more detail.

How do you know if you are too feminine?

If you are masculine in your energy, you may see feminine energy weak or ditsy.. Is it?

How does it feel being in feminine energy?

How will experiencing feminine energy enhance your life?

Some quick tips - Do not surrender financially to a man - If you are better at handling money, you do it!

Just because you are in a relationship with a man, it doesn't mean you have to surrender your intelligence.

Today’s sponsor is Money Rules. Many people struggle from one paycheck to the next, but it doesn’t need to be that way. Money Rules shows people just like you how to pay off debts in less than half the time and save thousands of dollars in wasted interest. Imagine of dollars in wasted interest. Imagine being able to be debt free 10, 15 or even 20 years sooner. How would you spend your time? Money Rules can show you how to create your future wealth, just on your current income, and how you can do even better with some small changes. Consider Money Rules to be your 24 hour financial adviser without the high fees. Once you have Money Rules working for you, you can plan your future and have total control over your money. Check out www.MoneyRules.com.au

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Aug 9, 2016

Many strong women are rewarded heavily for being strong and as such are rewarded for being in their masculine energy at work. They achieve promotions and they achieve massive financial success at work. How do they feel when they get home? How does being in their masculine energy effect them in their relationships? Kim and I in this podcast, discuss things like – What happens if you are in feminine energy and you work from home? What happens if you are working in a corporate business with others and you’re in your masculine energy?
What happens when you go home and you’re in masculine energy?

Balancing your masculine and feminine energy changes everything.

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Aug 9, 2016

What do you see most women struggle with in masculine and feminine energy?

Kim Johnson is the author of the book Nail it in 90 and she has been a Tony Robbins coach for many years. We both first learnt about masculine and feminine energy from Tony Robbins about 12 years ago. Kim and I are both fascinated by the subject. In this episode Kim and I discuss a few things relating to masculine and feminine energy and how it impacts us in life.

Everyday pressures have put women in the masculine role and they don’t know how to switch out of it. Many are stuck in the extreme of their masculine energy.

What do you see men struggle with in masculine and feminine energy?
Men don’t know how handle women in their masculine energy. Men are confused with how they treat a woman who is in their masculine energy. Do they treat them like a man or a woman?

Discover why everyone is so confused about masculine and feminine energy.

If you’re a man that is with a strong woman, listen to this.

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Jul 27, 2016

The 101 of masculine and feminine energy. If you don’t like the terminology masculine energy, you can call it power energy or feminine power. If you don’t like the terminology feminine energy, you can call it loving energy. Today I discuss what can happen if you are totally in your masculine energy and what can happen if you are totally in your feminine energy. Why would any woman want to be masculine in their energy? Why would any woman want to be feminine? What energy do you want to be in?

Today’s sponsor is Money Rules.

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